Despite my firmed plan of starting the blog later this week with someone I know, in a formal setting; at the end of a not-so-exciting Monday like today, I found myself in Starbucks wondering whether this blog idea is practical at all. I was there for thirty minutes until I saw a man playing chess by himself. With all my courage, I asked for five minutes of his time; and the unexpected conversation with him made my day.
“I am Frederic and I live in San Francisco. I worked for Federal Government for a long time. I was in the army, I was in Vietnam during the Vietnam war.”
What is happiness to you?
“Happiness is to have peace in mind. Happiness is living without anger, living without fear, living without any basic want or need that you cannot achieve.”
Does that mean you’ve been through a unhappy period that you couldn’t afford certain things?
…I’ve been miserable. I’ve been out of my mind, been crazy.”
Are you happy now?
“Most of the time.
But I have things that happened in the past come up to my mind, and I get stressed out sometimes. We all have some coping mechanism; and the best way for me to deal with it is to meditate in the morning for two hours, sometimes more, sometimes four.
What is your advice for others to be happy?
“Meditate for 15 minutes to 2 hours a day, everyday. It will give you certain state of calm in mind.”